Fi Amanillah (&your guide to darul uloom guys&girls)

BISMILLAHIR RAHMANIR RAHEEM

When this blog began, I  had a hundred thoughts&experiences to share. However something happened,Ramadhan.

It made me introspect and carrying on with this blog is not feasible for certain reasons. 

However, the few things I did want to share,are under. They also are completely applicable to me. Hope I can remember all,doubt it.

YOUR GUIDE TO DARUL ULOOM BOYS&GIRLS

a) They stand out because of the edge their ilm(knowledge) gives them.

b)However when we don’t practice on the ilm, it can have a very adverse effect that will impact on us even more than on someone who has limited ilm.

c)Do not get charmed by the lines a guy still studying gives you. (esp foreigners) that “hot” accent won’t sound so charming when he informs you he HAS to marry someone from his culture/family/or his mother might get suicidal. Girl, he is not going to marry you,period.

d) The girl who can rattle off her politics and arabic with equal ease, is  appealing. However when on your engagement/wedding/her friends walima, she rocks up with a camel hump or whips off her hanayen to expose her hair… you’re asking for trouble.

e) If you don’t have adab (respect and etiquette) for your teachers,kitaabs& colleagues while in Madressa, your stinky reputation will stay with you.

f) When we enter the Madressa, we have admitted ourselves into a washing machine to clean up our act internally and externally. We can only benefit if we don’t resist.

g) Very rarely does someone who didn’t work on their spiritual condition and keep the company of the pious will do so after leaving Madressa. This is an epic disaster. Knowledge of deen cannot be learnt in isolation, it’s not clinical like secular knowledge.

h) Conducting a love affair with anyone other than ALLAH TA’AALA is a huge barrier to learning and absorbing and figuring out our purpose in life. We dont need this. May Allah protect our hearts in HIS Merciful Hands

i) Watching movies and porn &listening to music (and youtubing unnecessary clips) ,blocks the nur(light) of the ilm filtering into the heart and mind. Doesn’t matter if our marks are sky high. It distances us from our Allah. And we will see the proof when we feel disinclined from deeni talks/people&activities.

j) Studying&Teaching Deen, the work of Tabligh, the time with the mashaaikh of the Khanqahs and humanitarian work are 4 wheels of a moving car. A car missing one wheel cannot go anywhere. IF we cannot be a part of a certain work, then don’t do yourself a disservice and pick on it. Zip our mouths. 

k) We should try and distance ourselves from the love of clothes,trends,cars & gadgets. What is the point of all our years in Madressa otherwise? What will set us apart? 

l) Please work on spelling and diction, it shouldn’t be that because we’re in Madressa we can butcher the  language! Remember Nabi SAW and Sahaba RA spoke eloquently.

m) become a master of our studies. When you enjoy it,it will be fun. Simple.

n) Overlook the faults of our teachers and the Ulama. Take their advice and duas.

o)Follow the sunnah and help the family, thats when they won’t say Alimas and Alims aren’t good people. Do it because it is a sunnah of Nabi SAW,whose example is the formula for success

p) Don’t be obsessed by stats and likes and dont be a wanna-be social media star. Facebook,Twitter etc is not for the people of Ilm

q) Don’t let anyone with a secular degree ever make you feel like a second class citizen and don’t allow yourself to feel that way. You’re a star. Allah has truly blessed you, now let’s that that ilm and use it to make a change.

r) don’t become an Alim known to debate and argue.

s) No matter how many years since we left Madressa, we should revise regularly and keep reading stories of the pious to motivate and inspire us.

 

AstaudiUllah deenaka wa amaanataka wa khawaateema amalik

 

How to fill the post Ramadhan emptiness

 

This was written by a  revert Muslim who had spent Ramadhan in China,Spain &Poland. It is a TOP article and inshaAllah, I have no doubt if we had to practise these advices, we’ll be sailing in the post Ramadhan breeze again, don’t lose hope. It’s long but ,really really beneficial inshaAllah.

The excitement of Eid is over. You are a revert Muslim and maybe it was your first time. There were times when you were not sure you were going to make it and even times when you were not sure of anything much at all.

It was 30 days of extreme physical and mental tests, long nights of prayer and lonely hours (at least in my case) of a dry throat.

Now on completion you will never forget those 30 days; every year from now on will mean something more than you ever could have imagined. They will forever be embedded in your heart and mind as a testimony to your resolve and unshaking belief in the shahadah, which you know beyond a doubt that you now firmly believe in.

And then in that joy comes the “crash” – the sense of emptiness, of abyss. You climbed so high to achieve the long fasts and Taraweeh of Ramadan and now everywhere you look is down. At the top, the climb seems nowhere near as bad as the descent.

         

And if you are feeling like that, trust me I was the same in 2012 in China, knowing I would go back to Spain, which isn’t the most Muslim-friendly place. This thought then filled my heart with a little bit of dread and then the desperation set in.

What do I do now? What does Allah Almighty want from me? What do I do at iftar? How do I maintain that sense of community?

With the end of Ramadan, it was like my “Muslimness” was draining away and no sense of scrambling would get it back. That sense of knowing Allah when refusing a cup of tea until the final bowel of Maghrib because you’re a Muslim, or the near militant avoidance of the use of bad language or the refusal to listen to non-Muslim worship during Ramadan was gone…

And in that desperation, I did the only thing I could do. I turned to Allah once more. Not because I was a “good Muslim” but because I didn’t know what else to do. I could not ask my family and within a short time the Muslims I had come to know in China were literally going to be on the other side of the world.

At this moment I knelt in my long prayer clothing with my hood up on my prayer mat and opened my ears wide.

What did Allah need to say to me? It was my first Ramadan and it was all over. How could I fill the emptiness?

The answers did not come all at once. One did but the others came later, some even during my second Ramadan.

First thing to remember is that you are not chasing a spiritual high but you are running after Allah, the one true God.

Any Muslim looking to emulate a spiritual high will be highly disappointed and will only be drunk in it.

The “high” is the blessing one gets for seeking Allah. The minute you stop seeking Him is the minute the food spoils and makes you sick. The blessing fades and turns abruptly into a nightmare because as writer Yasmin Mogahed says:

“You can only run in one direction. So you are either running to God, or you are running to something else…”

So with that in mind, how does one stay in the blessing of Ramadan?

Why Blessed in Ramadan?

Reflect on Allah’s greatness every time you say “Allahu Akbar” and what He inspired you to achieve.

Remind yourself why you felt blessed during Ramadan and why you did it in the first place. In my case I did not do it because it was a pillar of Islam, but I did it to feel closer to Allah. So I read the Quran more comprehensively, prayed more frequently, actively bought Islamic books on family life and marriage (seeing as it is the other half of the deen) to read in Ramadan and after it.

In other words, I surrounded myself with things that would allow me to have a better relationship with Allah and the Ummah. In doing so, I received Allah’s blessing and actively felt blessed. If I had to give one piece of advice this post-Ramadan I would say: write down or talk to a brother or sister about your blessings and how you wish to walk in them in the coming year. This means, at least it did in my case, a brainstorming session (or two or three) with your best friends or family.

Reflect on Allah’s Greatness

Reflect on Allah’s greatness every time you say “Allahu Akbar” and what He inspired you to achieve. I am not one to write things down but rather a person who “meditates” on such things. Doing my quiet times on the bus (which were not actually quiet, given how crowded a place China is), I made it part of my worship. In this worship, I processed what had happened to me during Ramadan and was happening to me now, after Eid.

I asked friends of mine what they thought of “my Ramadan”, which was a rather revealing, though a not too comfortable experience that told me a lot about myself and my relationship with Islam (my good and bad attitudes).

If you are a revert or even a born Muslim it is actually very worthwhile to ask a non-Muslim person you trust to give their honest opinion as they see things that Muslims may not always notice, given that they are themselves focusing on prayer and fasting themselves!

Allah’s greatness can be reflected everywhere (unless it is strictly haram) and in every person (obviously to a varying degree) so don’t make the mistake of only asking the holiest person you meet!

Ask Allah’s Help

Ask Allah what He wants you to do with your new found skills of post-Ramadan (in my case more patience and a greater awareness of poverty and physical hardship). I did a lot of du’a following Ramadan and asked Allah about the things I had read, the people I had met and the skills I had learned. I also went out and actively did something about it. Du’a is only the beginning and changes little if you do not act on it.

Du’a is participatory; it is not a monologue and involves interaction with Allah and subsequently other people, in order that Allah can show you how to make your pure heartfelt desires a reality. Think Action Plan, in blocks or a series of steps (I prefer not to have a timeframe as I lose motivation.)

 Invest time in building and maintaining Halal relationships  Actively look for opportunities to interact or offer your support to someone. Connect to the pious. Let them assist you.(p.s pious people aren’t friendly with the opposite gender but stick to a need to know basis and only if neccesary)

Continue to frequently consult the websites from where you obtained Quranic insights to live a highly productive and spiritual Ramadan. In my case this was how I first became acquainted with being productive. Go back to basics and read straight from a kitab, not a gadget. Temptation to surf and go into unnecessary googling will be cut down, also the nur (light) felt from reading a kitab(Islamic book) will always be far brighter than any app or screen.

Continuity is Key

Ask Allah what you need to work on after Ramadan which you didn’t have time to perfect during Ramadan.

Keep up any one of the routines you established during Ramadan – continuity is key. If you made it your goal in Ramadan 2012 to pray all 5 no matter where you were or to pray at the mosque daily in Ramadan 2013, keep up the habit! If you found time during Ramadan to go the gym and work a full-time job, you will still have that time then after Ramadan. It might mean, as it did in my case, that you make it your business to know every mosque in the city or that you book appointments and work schedule (or even leisure activities) around prayer times but believe me, it is worth it. I just think of all the exercise and fat I burn cycling to the masjid and the less time I have to sit wasting time on my computer.

Recover What You Missed in Ramadan

Ask Allah what you need to work on after Ramadan which you didn’t have time to perfect during Ramadan. In my first one the focus was more physical, given the shock my body had. The focus of my second one was consistent masjid attendance. I am sure the next thing I must work on is patience. In this year’s post-Ramadan I will,Insha’Allah, be looking at what frustrates me and how I can avoid that feeling of frustration. In my case prayer is the number one solution and actually my best non-Muslim friend gives me my prayer mat when I am annoyed! Attack what you need to work on from two angles, find out the source or the reason behind the need to change, develop and/or grow and facilitate the solution.

{O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.} (2:153)

In your post-Ramadan, there will be times where you don’t feel spiritual at all. You might even feel fed-up and irritable, having slipped up and lost your newly created habits, be it gym attendance, masjid attendance, reduction in the number of swear words you allow to pass your lips etc.

Pray about it, commit the issue to Allah. Make yourself accountable to a Muslim of the same sex (i.e. not your wife or husband though they should know you are doing it and who with), not to revel in it but to genuinely seek Allah’s will on the matter. Ask him/her to commit to doing du’a for you too and be patient and steadfast.

Lastly, remember if you forget to take prescribed medicine it normally says on the instruction leaflet, not to take a double dose but rather resume the medicine again as soon as you remember or as soon as you can. This is what I encourage you to do when and if you should slip up. Commit to prayer, be patient with yourself and as soon as you can resume your normal “Ramadan” behavior. For this is now you, not the man or woman before Ramadan but the one after!

So with these tips, prepare yourself to have a different but equally enriching post-Ramadan experience until the next one, Insha’Allah.

The article “Maintaining the Spiritual High of Ramadan When You’re on Your Own” first appeared at http://productivemuslim.com. It’s republished with slight  modifications.

 

This is what post Ramadhan should be…

may Allah forgive us for regarding HIS love as less important than the love of makhlooq, legal or illicitRumi Quote

may we stay in love with Allah and Nabi SAW so every haraam is hated by us. So easy was it in Ramadhan to run to Allah and now in the snare of nuffs and shaitan, we fall.

Stay still a little,pull back a little when in doubt, make a tiny effort oh soul and ask Allah to help you reach a fruitful ,pure end